
Demand respect and give it first
You have been treated carelessly by someone, so you go into the next conversation with an edge in your voice. They hear the edge, get defensive, and behave carelessly again. You…

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Writes about the feelings that turn up uninvited — anger, resentment, the urge to be liked — and what to do with them instead of pretending they are not there. Runs Kai, and is a member of it too.

You have been treated carelessly by someone, so you go into the next conversation with an edge in your voice. They hear the edge, get defensive, and behave carelessly again. You…

You know the decision. You know it will hurt someone. So you wait, and you are telling yourself you are waiting out of kindness.

You are meant to be the steady one. You are also, currently, not steady. So you say nothing, which works right up until someone else admits they are struggling and you realise you…
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Someone talks over you in a meeting for the third time. Heat in your chest, jaw tight, a full sentence already loaded and ready to fire. You say nothing. Later you cannot remember…